Without a clear household border, holidays, housing, and parenting become committee projects. Decide internal topics before relatives decide them for you.
Decide household rules before holidays decide them.
Other Truths you may like to hear
Relationships
Love alone preserves nothing
Date the practical reality, not the potential.
RelationshipsYou cannot rehabilitate anyone
Marry who they are today, or run.
RelationshipsChemistry is not compatibility
Check money, sleep, family, and conflict styles.
RelationshipsA prenup is adult paperwork
Write the exit while you still like each other.