You are bringing a whole human into a complex world. Overturn your narcissism.
Waking up every 2 hours for a solid half-year is highly effective torture. Sleep-deprived partners turn into hyper-reactive, combative roommates who weaponize chores.
Acknowledge that your relationship will enter a survival zone, and agree never to hold sleep-deprived fights against each other.
Between formula, clean clothes, healthcare, premium child-care or nursery, and safety gears, children are insanely expensive long before schooling even starts.
Audit local infant care registries and add a solid $1,500/month recurring cost line to your current budget. See how it looks.
Children are heat-seeking missiles for your unhealed trauma and emotional triggers. If you expect them to act as a patch for your existential boredom or bad partner, they will carry that weight forever.
Spend a year in dedicated therapy sorting out your own parent-induced baggage before passing the buck.